I’m the eldest of four children, and my earliest understanding of relationships came from watching my parents’. Their marriage was a difficult one, marked by patterns I wouldn’t wish on anyone, and it left me confused for a long time about whether real happiness between two people was even possible. My mother stayed for nearly three decades before she finally said no more and left. Watching her do that taught me something I still carry into every session I run: it’s never too late to choose yourself.

In 2008, a relationship I thought was solid ended without warning, and it broke me. I reached a point where I didn’t want to be here anymore. I know now that I needed support far sooner than I let myself ask for it, and that’s part of why I take mental health as seriously as I do in my own work today.

What eventually pulled me back was a shift, late in 2010, when I made the decision to reclaim my life on my own terms. I called it restyling my way of living, which is where the name behind my handle comes from, and it’s still the closest word I have for what coaching does: not starting over, but rebuilding, deliberately, into something that actually fits you.

My working life began in HR management, supporting people through the moments where work and life collide. More than twenty years across HR and practice, and more than ten years running my own private practice, taught me the same lesson again and again: the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every relationship in your life.

“I hear you. I see you. I feel you.”